How do you fall in love with yourself?

How do you fall in love with yourself?

A couple of days ago, I posed this question to one of my girlfriends via text message after reading this post by Jada Pinkett Smith on her Instagram page. Seeing her photo and reading her caption gave me so much life in digging deep because I often ask myself that, but it didn’t fully make sense truthfully and honestly until I read it from her. Here is my close friends response and her response as you will tell it was very informative, so informative I asked her for permission to share on my blog so that it can reach other woman that think the same that we do. Read below.

Me: How do you fall in love with yourself?

Cheryl: Wow…. you know. That question. Wow! This is why I love you.

Because PPL don’t ask those types of questions.

Honestly….. it’s choice I think.

When I’ve been at my lowest I could only look at myself.

No man. No friends could help.

Sometimes not even prayer.

For me it was about REALITY and how I viewed the world.

You MUST first and for most do what makes you happy.

And what I mean by this is….

I love to color, I love to sit in the park! I love to read. I love to get my toes done! And I totally love to binge out on BBC shows, swim and ride bikes!

To me theses are ways I show myself LOVE.

It’s something no one can take away from me. Like knowledge you have to plan for what you want….. Like your Louis Vuitton bag or the family trips you plan to do for you and the boys. These are ways you can experience it in its entirety and not just for the moment.

In doing so, there will be no stress attached.

These are moments when you may fall out of love with yourself.

You don’t feel at your best. Or you’ve neglected doing things like you use to do. And when you sit back and think about it…. you say to yourself…. what happened? I’ve lost ME!

This I believe is easy to get back into. Because only you know your heart.

So start slow and move along to keep consistently loving on you.

This is my experience. While I love my self 100%, I don’t always wake up happy or excited. There are days when I feel like CURSING out everyone. I don’t wanna talk is smile. I just wanna hide away.

And now when I get like this, I PRAY!!!! PRAY!!!! PRAY!!! And thank God for loving me. Protecting me. Providing for me. Caring for me. Guiding me. Honoring me.

Because with him and only with him ANYTHING is POSSIBLE.

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I am my most happiest when……

I am the most happiest when I am dedicating to self care. What is your version of self care Jasmine? Well self care is when I am working out, eating healthy, and have a good relationship  with God. Being a mother, having a full time job, taking care of your home, and following your dreams can be a lot on a person. And when my self care takes a back seat because of lack of consistency, I am not my happiest. I’ve seen what doing what makes you happy can do.  I am more intoned with myself and I can deliver a good message that can resonate with a single mother out there. I am more free in though and understanding, and my clarity is sharp. I mean it is like you are unstoppable, and things are aligned. But then you have a hiccup, and you fall, and you have to start all over again. Well that is where I am right now. We all can have our good days, and we all can have our not so good days. But one thing that I have learned, sometimes you have to take it up a notch. Sometimes what may have worked before, does not work again and you have to challenge yourself. I also learned that when things according to your perception aren’t going the way that you would like, can really mean that it really is going right, and that it is a new level of satisfaction that you may have reached. So whatever self care is for you, sit down get a piece of pen and paper and write it down. After you have written it down, make the necessary strides to do it. Do what brings you joy…And everything else will fall into place.

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