There is no perfect way to parent. None.

Word of advice. Do the best you can raising your little ones. My upbringing was not as perfect as one would think. But the key word is perfect. We had great times as well. One thing is for sure, I remember the struggles I endured with my mother. I also remember her doing her best to feed us and make the most of anything. I remember when she had leg room to get us more than we asked for and she would always say yesShe did her best. I remember the good times and I remember the not so good times. But what stands out the most, and I may not have said it then as I do now because I am now a mother, I appreciate her best. Don’t compare your way of raising your children

with others. Don’t stop being you because of what you feel and think you need to do. Do you best. If you renig on a punishment, it’s ok if you back track, but know that it comes with consequences. If you don’t

make rice and meat with veggies for dinner, but rather a turkey cheese lettuce tomatoes on a roll for dinner, that’s ok too. If you want to stay up late on a school night to bond with your kids over Henry Danger (A nickelodean show by the way) so be it. But dammit, be you! You children will never ever forget what you did for them in your

honesty, and in your truth. You want  honest people in your life, RAISE THEM! You want respectful people in your life RAISE THEM! You want loving people RAISE THEM! The bottom line to all of my truth

right here, is that it’s my truth. There is no perfect way to parent. But when you make a decision that involves your children, know that they see it. Know that they will mimick it. We ARE A PRODUCT OF OUR

ENVIRONMENT. Parent around THAT! #mytruth #honesty #raisingboys

#parenting #transparent #singlemom #motherhood #momofboys #nycliving

#harlem #love #respect #us #howisinglemomit

Momming & Kickboxing

When you are woman that wears many hats like myself, (Daughter, mother, sister, friend, provider, blogger, writer, employee) you can overwhelm the crap out of yourself, if you don’t release, if you don’t have an outlet. You are snappy, (at the wrong people), constantly tired, out of breathe (especially being a New Yorker utilizing the MTA), you can’t run after your kids, they stay running faster than you, and you feel sluggish and Unmotivated. This was all me and then some. With all i had going on, i had to make a commitment to my commitment and that was ME. I can’t be the best me if I’m not taking care of my temple. I have a ways to go, but i don’t carry so much weight since then. I’m tracking my progress for the first time ever. It also took me a while to share this because i would start something and stop right after. But this time around, especially since i prepared my MIND first before i did the work, Its a constant, and I’m happy. I push myself even when i don’t want to do it, my energy level is higher, and my mentor says, MIRACLES HAPPEN IN MOVEMENTS. And i did double classes back to back tonight, so I’m totally in expectancy. Oh, and i can see past my belly now. 🙈

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.#ilovekickboxing #harlem #mom #fitness #singlemom #woman #healthiswealth #committed #momofboys #nycliving #changeyourthoughts #grateful #howisinglemomit

Tantrums Outside

Being a mom. Is not always glamorous. I share happy photos , positive thoughts, positive photos, and happy times, because that is the life i want and AM leading. But i / we do have our rough days. I do have my days when my 6 year old throws one of the most annoying tantrums on the planet, it makes me want to lose my shit. But i don’t. Well at least most recently. I have been practicing patience EVERYDAY, not mastered, but practicing. Practicing : the actual application or use of an idea or belief. I have been practicing consistent discipline with my 6 year old in a form of not backing down from him when it comes to thinking he can get away with not doing what he needs to do or getting upset over the tiniest things. These very things are done at home and at school. With that said, I’m standing my ground, I’m putting him on the wall at home. My form of timeout when his knees are bent and hands are out, and I’m making him aware of what it is needs to work on. Being a mother, a single mom, a parent is not easy. And it isn’t made for the weak. Stand your ground. They’ll thank you later. #tantrums #parenting #singlemom #discipline #firm #son #momofboys #singleparent #howisinglemomit

Be Hopeful

Raise your hand if you ever question what the heck is going on when a prayer is answered? 🙋🏾‍♀️i quickly stopped myself and thanked God. When you have gone through so much, when things happen, things you didn’t think possible manifest, you are in awe. So if you feel that it’s taking to long. Hold on a little while longer and continue to go in with your life with the notion that it will come at its right time. And most times it’s when we are on time with where we need to be in preparation to receive. #grateful #prayers #hopeful #encouraged #singlemom #iprayedforthis #alignment #Godstiming #howisinglemomit