Quick story with a point here. I recently started implementing (No) in my vocabulary lately with my kids, wait, Actually no, i’ve been using it in my life in general. So lately I’ve been telling the kids not to bombard me with demands as soon as walk through the door. Child: “Mom can you make me a peanut butter jelly sandwich please” Me: “Can I turn the key first?” I found myself snapping at their demands, and really checking myself. They are kids, so when they ask me for something, it is because they have been doing so all of their life. It’s in their nature. Today for instance, after they ate, I then sat down to eat and relax myself. My youngest, runs up to me after seeing that I have now taken my time to sit and enjoy my dinner. He requests I assist him with his tablet. I started to put my fork down and quickly stopped myself. If I don’t create this boundary, that it is my time, my time to eat, and enjoy my dinner my kids will continuously run me down. Or interrupt me rather, when I am doing something for me. Listen I will always be on edge if I’m overly multitasking, (mothers we can multitask, but it’s wise to do one thing at a time) which causes me tension and everything starts to be a burden rather than something that I need to do. So, my child asked me three times. “But mom, can you please put in the password, I want to watch Disney XD!”. While throwing a fit. I calmly said “no. Wait until I’m done eating”. That actually felt good, it felt like wow, I’m becoming this person that does not and will not continue to allow folks to walk over her, no matter who it is. Some of you may be reading this , and saying to yourself, well dang, she’s a tough cookie. If you walk a day in my shoes and do the things I have to do daily, you would be fed up too. You would utilize your time wisely. You would want to do things willingly and not with burden. You will want to teach your kids rather then snap at them. You will want to just be smart at how you burn your energy. I can’t always say yes to everything, because it’s saying no to me. I Say no, because it creates boundaries, it’s a level of respect. I’m pretty sure you all want your children to respect you. Hell, I am sure you want to teach your children how to be respectful, receive respect and also have have others respect them as well. 
And this folks, is how I single mom it. #singlemom #momlife #boundaries #no #momofboys #parenting

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