Earlier I shared why I say no, but here is why I say YES. I could go some yards about how it all started, you know being a Mum to some little humans. But I’ll just start here. I chose to say yes, to sleepless nights, vomit on my blouse right after getting dressed. Yes to a repeat of the same movie, yes to your cries, yes to a plethora of diaper changes and potty training. Yes to not buying myself something but you first. Yes to you eating first then me. Yes to realizing 7 and half years later that I’ve mastered finishing my food in under 10 min because I’m so use to you getting all of my time. Yes to staring at you when you sleep or all of the time. yes to seeing my goofy attitude now replicated, yes to wanting to share parts of our lives with strangers who have little to no knowledge as to how one can overcome or master a situation I may have surpassed. Yes to waking up to you in my bed, yes to my turn up Friday nights are coins and chuckie cheese songs. Yes to loving you unconditionally, yes to reprimanding you when you are wrong or right. Lol yes I did just say that. Yes to wanting to take your flu so that you don’t have to suffer. Yes to wanting to scold the child that bullied you or pushed you down the slide in a not so nice way. And most importantly. Yes to choosing to take care of you, make sacrifices, cry myself to sleep, and being your sole provider besides God of course. Yes to showing up everyday and loving you because I do. Yes. #yes #mommasboy #boymom #momlife #singlemom #lifequotes #howisinglemomit
Quick story with a point here. I recently started implementing (No) in my vocabulary lately with my kids, wait, Actually no, i’ve been using it in my life in general. So lately I’ve been telling the kids not to bombard me with demands as soon as walk through the door. Child: “Mom can you make me a peanut butter jelly sandwich please” Me: “Can I turn the key first?” I found myself snapping at their demands, and really checking myself. They are kids, so when they ask me for something, it is because they have been doing so all of their life. It’s in their nature. Today for instance, after they ate, I then sat down to eat and relax myself. My youngest, runs up to me after seeing that I have now taken my time to sit and enjoy my dinner. He requests I assist him with his tablet. I started to put my fork down and quickly stopped myself. If I don’t create this boundary, that it is my time, my time to eat, and enjoy my dinner my kids will continuously run me down. Or interrupt me rather, when I am doing something for me. Listen I will always be on edge if I’m overly multitasking, (mothers we can multitask, but it’s wise to do one thing at a time) which causes me tension and everything starts to be a burden rather than something that I need to do. So, my child asked me three times. “But mom, can you please put in the password, I want to watch Disney XD!”. While throwing a fit. I calmly said “no. Wait until I’m done eating”. That actually felt good, it felt like wow, I’m becoming this person that does not and will not continue to allow folks to walk over her, no matter who it is. Some of you may be reading this , and saying to yourself, well dang, she’s a tough cookie. If you walk a day in my shoes and do the things I have to do daily, you would be fed up too. You would utilize your time wisely. You would want to do things willingly and not with burden. You will want to teach your kids rather then snap at them. You will want to just be smart at how you burn your energy. I can’t always say yes to everything, because it’s saying no to me. I Say no, because it creates boundaries, it’s a level of respect. I’m pretty sure you all want your children to respect you. Hell, I am sure you want to teach your children how to be respectful, receive respect and also have have others respect them as well.
And this folks, is how I single mom it. #singlemom #momlife #boundaries #no #momofboys #parenting
I keep seeing this message. I even felt in my spirit. I feel like I’m going through this because something BIG is about to happen. Even sharing this right now, the enemy isn’t pleased with it. But guess what, it’s not about your insecurities, your jealousy, nor your want to not have more souls be brought to the kingdom. You see, I’m a regular girl, with dreams, with vision, with insecurities, and fear. But I don’t choose to live IN them like I did in the past. I choose to embrace the pain, cry if I have to, and even share it with a close friend or two. Half of them including family, don’t know the full extent of how my day was, or if I cried, laughed, or prayed for someone. Either way, I still SHOW UP IN THAT PIECE. I asked Myself why, I asked God why. I even thought of how repetitive this pattern was and the fight I had to put up for it. And all I Got, all I read, and what I SAW, was, IF YOU EVEN KNEW HOW BIG OF A BLESSING WAS THAT WAS WAITING FOR YOU AROUND THE CORNER, you would be praise dancing right now. You see, this isn’t about MONEY, this isn’t about the THINGS I WANT, ITS ABOUT OVERCOMING! ITS ABOUT KNOWING WHAT IS, and WHAT AINT! God I WANT TO YELL THIS OUT!!! You may be crying about it now, but God is saying get READY. It may hurt right now, but God is saying BE PATIENT. You may not UNDERSTAND IT RIGHT NOW, but OHHHHH JESUS!!!! God says TRUST ME!!!!!! you HAVE GOT TO HOLD ON!!!!! #hope #staystrong #steadfast #peace #love #patience #singlmom #momlife
I named this post “No Judgment Zone” for a reason. There are some christians that read what I share. Some may not agree with what I may say or do. And that is ok. Everyone is on their own level with the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
There are some things I learn after the fact, and I then understand why a friend may have shared a word with me at that moment. -I get that, now. One thing I’ve learned in life is, you cannot force something on someone. It has to just happen. Some may accelerate their path with Christ because of what they have given up along the way. They’ve completely surrendered everything to God. Now I am not saying that I won’t or haven’t. We live in a world where we have to constantly battle with wanting to do it Gods way, and wanting to do it our way. So when you surrender, there is not only and in between, but there isn’t indecivesness with the father up for grabs. I’m not even going to blame the world. Like some of us do. Because everyone has their own world (in their mind) in my opinion.
I started off this post with the thoughts of sitting up on my bed at 1:20a.m with my youngest sleeping on my lap. He’s under the weather. I’ve given him meds, and home remedies. It eased him for a bit, but then I felt the urge to read the word. Proverbs 11 to be exact. When I initially fell asleep around 10:45 p.m ish, I was too tired to read a chapter before bed. I said a short prayer, but was too tired to ‘give’ more. So now I’m up and I felt the urge (Holy Spirit) tell me to read. So as I’m reading I’m also believing God for healing, for my youngest. It doesn’t matter if it’s the common cold, my son has been coughing non stop. He needs his rest, and so do I. (Up at 5:45a.m.)
Right after I finished praying, he began to throw up mucus. He’s 5. So you know that younger kids aren’t aware of ridding the mucus when they cough to keep them from the non stop coughing. He threw up mucus about 10 – 15 times. Then this message came to mind. “I want to be so enveloped in God I won’t be hesitant in my next move.”
This could be misinterpreted to those with the un-decerned spirIt. How am I up, going through this with my youngest but getting these (thoughts) messages?
I am currently taking it as Gods way of not only wanting me to spend time with him, but to share this it with the world.
What does that message mean you may ask? Here is how I am interpreting it. Being so emerged in God, gives you a divine, sublime connection. He guides you. He creates an agent in you to help others. I mean, isn’t this what this is all about? To save souls? I can go on and on about this. So I’ll make this a Part 1….
Goodnight beautiful people. #thoughts #godsplan #surrender #singlemom #howisinglemomit