Tantrums Outside

Being a mom. Is not always glamorous. I share happy photos , positive thoughts, positive photos, and happy times, because that is the life i want and AM leading. But i / we do have our rough days. I do have my days when my 6 year old throws one of the most annoying tantrums on the planet, it makes me want to lose my shit. But i don’t. Well at least most recently. I have been practicing patience EVERYDAY, not mastered, but practicing. Practicing : the actual application or use of an idea or belief. I have been practicing consistent discipline with my 6 year old in a form of not backing down from him when it comes to thinking he can get away with not doing what he needs to do or getting upset over the tiniest things. These very things are done at home and at school. With that said, I’m standing my ground, I’m putting him on the wall at home. My form of timeout when his knees are bent and hands are out, and I’m making him aware of what it is needs to work on. Being a mother, a single mom, a parent is not easy. And it isn’t made for the weak. Stand your ground. They’ll thank you later. #tantrums #parenting #singlemom #discipline #firm #son #momofboys #singleparent #howisinglemomit

Be Hopeful

Raise your hand if you ever question what the heck is going on when a prayer is answered? 🙋🏾‍♀️i quickly stopped myself and thanked God. When you have gone through so much, when things happen, things you didn’t think possible manifest, you are in awe. So if you feel that it’s taking to long. Hold on a little while longer and continue to go in with your life with the notion that it will come at its right time. And most times it’s when we are on time with where we need to be in preparation to receive. #grateful #prayers #hopeful #encouraged #singlemom #iprayedforthis #alignment #Godstiming #howisinglemomit

Pencil you in.

Mom Tip for today: When creating your ‘To Do’s’. Schedule in some time for you. just as we have a time blocked out for work, home, kids, grocery shopping etc, you should have time blocked out for you? How about scheduling in a SPA day once a month. And if you’re checking your pockets, this is why we have GROUPON. Come on, us mommies need it often, heck anyone that works a ton in all areas of their life need it. I NEEDSSSS IT, and I PENCILED ME IN. How about you!? #spa #metime #mefirst #monthlymaintenance #pamper #notetoself #mom #author #momlife #mompreneur #howisinglemomit

When you learn a thing or 2 from your kid (Fossil Fuels)

A message brought to you by CT. ~> He was sharing why we should use solar panels with his uncle Noni. I wasn’t paying attention and he repeated himself. I kid you not, I learn a lot from this kid and the things he learns at school. Anyway, I thought it was pretty cool and wanted to share. (He says we have to take care of our earth) #fossilfuels #solarpanel #earthscience #elementary #mykid #proudmom #singlemom #motherhood #votd

Ego Check ✔️

Your ego can get in the way of a lot of meaningful relationships, and purposeful things in your life.

I say this, because it’s coming from me as a student. Being in this season, as I now call it, “constant correction”. I realized that I have allowed my EGO to get in the way of listening. Listening to what can help change me, help me grow as an individual and even forgiveness. While I have changed, control is a major part of who I am. I mean, I am my mother and my fathers daughter. We all get our ways from somewhere right? Through the years, I have allowed ego to slowly, fade. Yes, slowly. But as I have gained a new found eagerness to strengthen my relationship with God, I’ve noticed the mistakes and errors that I have made, of which has caused some failed relationships.

It wasn’t until recently that I have learned that wow just, do you even pay attention to yourself or the things that you say , and how you respond to things. And this is by no means, putting myself down, or backing down from who I truly am to appease others. Oh no no no. It is having and allowing the power within me,(God) to shine forth and be able to receive. Of course we have to have a discerning spirit. But we can’t always lead with Ego. Ego will close your ears to advice you need to hear. Ego, will make it where friendships will begin to fade because that person is no longer able to speak to you. Ego will make you come off as you are one person, when you are really another, but you ego gets in the way to allow your loving self to shine through. Why, because they know you will not HEAR. Ego will make it where people will call you “a know it all”, because your word is the only word true, and everything else is well…….SHITS. Ego, will ego will make you grow old, alone.

Ego, is Edging God Out.

So please, Ego check… #ego #personaldevelopment #constantcorrection #growth #hear #open #receive #message #blogoftheday#momblogger #author #writer #lover #mother #singlemom

Your children can sense your energy

Yesterday while running errands with my boys, we were all in a good mood. My oldest, who reminds me a lot like myself when I was his age CHECKED ME. (Respectfully)So we’re in the store and I noticed the look on his face. I said what’s the matter? He said, I was happy, and now I’m not, I’m mad because your upset. I said no I’m not. How? He said yes you are because you said the “D”(amn) word. I said; I did? (He replayed what I said and I was stuck) He was like Mom I was happy and your energy ruined mine. (My face)😮😐😮😳😳. I felt horrible after that and checked my energy… but the night didn’t end that positive (won’t insert long story)… I said this to say, we have to really be careful with our energy, our mood and how we project it. I was so caught in my own mess that I didn’t realize that it affected my boys like that. I felt horrible, and in speaking to a dear friend of mine this morning, she was like “yea Jasz, energy transfers and omg you are doing such a great job for him to be that young and aware”. I had grounded him for something after that, but she suggested that I give him another chance and I will. (This is why I am in constant correction, and this is why I tell my boys to communicate with me everyday, even if it’s something I won’t like. #energy #communication #emotion #parenting #motherhood #singlemom #vibes #myboy #howisinglemomit

What people are saying about my book….

It was slightly challenging, sharing a piece of me with the world. At one point, I wondered if I was saying too much. But I kept going, I kept writing, and it kept flowing. My uncle said, “this must have been therapeutic for you. I said, yes, indeed it was. When you know that your story must be told to help others, it is no longer about you, but how God is using you. Not everyone will be assigned to your voice. Not everyone will be able to separate Jasmine the author, from Jasmine the mother of two. And that is ok. My mission here is to not please nor force, or attempt to convince anyone. It feels good that I am following through with what God put in my heart. He is very strategic in how he moves you, in what he allows, intentionally loving you without you fully knowing and at a capacity to accept. Through your tears, your struggles, your seasons, He knows that you are built for this. — And in turn, reading this message attached sent to me from a very close friend of mine, of whom I will not disclose, made my heart smile. This is just constant confirmation, that I am following the right path, and that I am in alignment with God even with my mistakes, and imperfections, he is using me. And I am honored. #honored #author #publsihedauthor #selfhelpbook #mother #woman #singlemom #life #growth #purpose #singleparenting

Do you miss him or are you lonely?

Whooo, this is a very touchy subject for me. I also speak a little about it in my book “How I Single Mom it” if you want to know more.

Anyway, before and after my kids father, I was in a relationship with my ex. This man is the man I just knew I would marry. I was romantically in love with this man. Head over heals, I thought I had met my match. What was great about our relationship, is that we built a pretty good solid friendship as well, he was my best friend. In our first go round, there was nothing I wouldn’t do for him. But than again, I was very young, and Naive. We both were. I didn’t have much experience. Fast forward to 2014, we attempted for the 3rd time to form a relationship together, and months after It didn’t end well. I again, walked away. I couldn’t stand the eruption of emotions when we couldn’t agree. Especially when it was someone that I loved. And at that time I didn’t understand why he did not understand me. What I know about love now, today, is that love is no fairy tale. In fact, everything you may not like about your partner, is one of the reasons you stay. Because of it, it shows you what true love is. (I will go more in debt with that at a later date) Through the 12 years of our (off and on) relationship. We experienced a lot of trials and tribulations. So much so, that trust was lost, and miscommunication wasnt a major factor. As I get older, and are more aware of where I am in life with God, experience and myself, I know now, that I was not ready, In no way shape or form. I had no clue how to be a wife. And I wanted to marry this man. I did not seek counsel about it because my emotions got in the way. I did own up to my part in the demise of our relationship, but to be honest. He is someone I will NEVER forget. During this journey of finding myself, loving myself, working on myself and doing the things that make me happy, I find myself also missing him. Missing his hugs, his laughter, his intellectual intelligence on spirituality and just the way he knows ME. There was a period in my life and our relationship where I would stop speaking him for months. I’m talking 6months or more, years. 1 year or two. There was a time in my life where we worked near each other and went to the same college and our classes were right across from one another. And I would walk right by him like a stranger. I questioned God every time this happened. But ignored growth. Ignored knowledge and wisdoms. I leaned on my own understanding and not Gods. You see I do often miss this man, but I know the only man that God truly placed in my life for constant correction when it came to relationships. I am not lonely, I miss our friendship was him, and that is why he comes to mind. I have yet to meet another man that can move me the way that he did. He is a mere example to me that God truly does have someone out there just for me, and there is someone out there just for him. We may not be compatible for one another. But the days of going back has ended.

When he comes to mind and I feel him, is a mere light 💡 that says Jasmine, you need to stay on track, if not, you may just set yourself back some time. And time is a valuable gift given that we cannot truly get back…

So the next time that your ex, that ex that you will never forget comes to mind, ask yourself, have you learned from that relationship? Are you repeating the same cycles with someone knew? Are you loving yourself?

Share your thoughts? I’d love to hear them.

#love #relationships #myex #correction #singlemom #singlelife

I use to cry to my boy’s father.

Man those days weren’t so long ago, and they were the most toughest days in my life. Now a days I don’t cry. I don’t cry, because he wasn’t going to change, I had to change. I had to accept his role and who he is. I couldn’t control this individual, but I can control me. When I do get upset, because it’s challenging, and I am human, I allow the emotion to pass through, I suck it up and do what I must anyway. I asked myself the right questions and followed them with solutions. Life got better when he knew I didn’t need him. The best way to look at these times, is that you KNOW who is present, and who is raising your children. You know you are giving you’re all, and you know that what you do today, is what will help mold your children into the better version of yourself. And that’s STRENGTH. #singlemom #raisingboys #momofboys #motherhood #overcome #life #strength #power #vision#howisinglemomit